I hate when people say “I
do not feel the way I use to anymore”. To most people, love is just an emotion. I say this every
day to a friend of mine when she tells me she does not think she loves her
husband anymore: "Love isn't an emotion, it's a choice".
Emotions come and go. Love
is a choice you make every day to stand by the person you are with, through the
good times, the bad times, and all the times in between.
To say love isn't supposed to hurt is a lie! The truth is, love will hurt you more than anything else in the world, but with love also comes forgiveness, understanding and strength.
Love is given freely on
the good days, but it is needed most on the bad ones. Think to yourself for one
minute, if you mess up and hurt the person that you love, would you want them
to forgive, or would you want them to leave you?
It is so easy for us to
point the finger at what someone else did and say, "Well they made me
leave because of what they did". What if the shoe was on the other foot?
If you can honestly say
you don't love someone anymore, and you can turn it off like a faucet, then you
never loved them in the first place. Love can be bent, twisted, stretched. It
can even be broken, but if it's real, it can never be gone. If you were in it for the right reasons, you will always find a way to fix it.
Falling in love is the easy part, and everyone thinks once the butterflies are gone that there is no more love. The butterflies aren't love, they're your emotions.
Love is what comes after
the butterflies, love is saying no matter what life throws your way, how good
or bad things get, you couldn't imagine having anyone else next to you to walk
this journey with.